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“I’m faking my paternity leave”: a Reddit post calls for HR action

The phenomenon of faking paternity or maternity leave, as highlighted by a recent Reddit post, serves as a stark reminder of the complexities HR professionals navigate daily. This issue, however, is merely the tip of the iceberg calling for immediate HR action.

Alexandros Pantelakis
Alexandros Pantelakis

HR content specialist at Workable, delivering in-depth, data-driven articles to offer insights into industry and tech trends.

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From feigned illnesses to concocted personal emergencies, the lengths to which some employees will go to exploit benefits systems reflect a deeper issue within the fabric of organizational trust. 

As we delve into this blurry territory, it’s crucial to understand not just the act, but the implications it carries for HR practices and the overall workplace culture.

Faking leaves is a revamping trend

The Reddit revelation of an employee fabricating a paternity leave narrative—complete with borrowed baby bump photos to secure two months off work—opens a Pandora’s box of ethical and operational dilemmas.

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In a surprising turn of events, an employee at a large company has admitted to faking his paternity leave. 

Despite not having a girlfriend or any children on the way, he managed to deceive his employer by showing them pictures of a pregnant acquaintance. 

With the leave scheduled for December, the employee started feeling nervous about the consequences of his actions. Although he was prepared to face termination, he regretted the extent to which he had made this deceitful decision.

This case is far from isolated. Across forums, social media, and even whispered in office corridors, stories circulate of employees bending the truth to gain unearned leave or benefits. 

The reddit revelation is not something new. In 2022, an HR professional took to TikTok to reveal a startling revelation about their workplace. She disclosed that within their company, they had encountered not one, not two, but a staggering five incidents involving fake babies. 


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This trend extends beyond paternity or maternity leave. There are tales of extended sick leaves based on non-existent medical conditions, bereavement leaves for fictional relatives, and mental health breaks leveraged without a shred of truth. 

Each case chips away at the mutual trust foundational to the employer-employee relationship, raising questions about the sustainability of current leave policies and the mechanisms in place to validate claims.

Other lies you may have encountered in the past include the following: 

  1. Claiming sudden illness or flu
  2. Fabricating a family emergency or crisis
  3. Stating car trouble or transportation issues
  4. Falsely claiming the death of a distant relative or friend
  5. Exaggerating the need for medical consultations or procedures
  6. Asserting sudden problems with childcare arrangements
  7. Describing home emergencies like burst pipes or power outages
  8. Claiming a mental health day without actual mental health concerns
  9. Pretending to be summoned for jury duty
  10. Using the excuse of a sick pet needing urgent care

These fabrications can be difficult to verify, posing challenges for HR professionals in distinguishing between genuine and deceitful claims.

Ethical and legal implications

The ethical quagmire presented by these deceptions is profound. On one hand, the necessity for compassion and support for employees through genuine life challenges is paramount.

On the other hand, the exploitation of these policies erodes trust, potentially disadvantageous to those with legitimate claims. 

The consequences for employees caught in the act range from termination to legal action, a stark reminder of the risks involved.

Yet, the implications extend beyond individual cases, touching on the very ethos of the workplace. 

A culture of skepticism can emerge, where employers feel compelled to scrutinize every claim, potentially invading privacy and damaging morale. 

The balance between trust and verification becomes a tightrope walk, challenging HR professionals to navigate these waters with both firmness and empathy.

Strategies for prevention and verification

Here are some strategies that you can follow and provide to your company another shield of protection to prevent these cases. Here are some strategies that you can follow and provide to your company, providing another shield of protection to prevent these cases. 

1. Employ future-proof HR policies and data analytics

As the workplace continues to evolve, so too must the policies that govern it. The rise of remote work, the increasing emphasis on mental health, and the changing dynamics of the employer-employee relationship call for a reevaluation of traditional leave policies. 

Future-proofing these policies means not only adapting to the current trends but anticipating the needs and challenges of tomorrow’s workplace.

Innovative approaches, such as flexible leave policies that accommodate the diverse needs of the workforce, can offer a solution. 

These policies, built on the principles of trust and accountability, allow for a more personalized approach to leave, reducing the temptation for deceit by addressing the genuine needs of employees.

Moreover, the integration of data analytics into HR practices can offer insights into patterns of leave requests, identifying potential areas of concern and allowing for proactive adjustments to policies and procedures.

This data-driven approach, combined with a steadfast commitment to ethical practices, can guide HR professionals in crafting policies that are both compassionate and robust, capable of withstanding the challenges of deception.

2. Do periodic check-ins

The introduction of periodic check-ins for long-term leaves, where employees are engaged in conversations about their situation and return-to-work plans, can also serve as a subtle yet effective form of verification. 

These interactions, when handled with care and empathy, can deter misuse by reinforcing the presence of an attentive and caring HR department.

3. Combine trust with verification

The heart of the matter lies in the delicate balance between trust and verification. An overzealous approach to verification can erode the foundation of trust that supports a positive workplace culture, leading to an atmosphere of suspicion and resentment. 

Conversely, a system too lenient opens the floodgates to abuse, undermining the very policies designed to support employee well-being.

HR professionals must, therefore, navigate these waters with a keen sense of fairness and a deep understanding of the human element at play. 

4. Build a culture of integrity

Building a culture of integrity starts with leading by example, where honesty and transparency in HR practices encourage similar behavior across the organization. 

Regular training sessions on the importance of work ethic, the implications of policy abuse, and the value of mutual respect can reinforce these principles.

The battle against the abuse of leave policies is not won through strict enforcement and rigid verification alone.

It is achieved by cultivating a culture of integrity, where mutual respect and understanding form the basis of every policy and interaction. 

As we move forward, let us remember that the strength of our organizations lies in the strength of our people and the values we share.

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